Pause your life for a moment, as if it were a television series that you are watching in chapters, imagine that each chapter is a time in your life that tells the moments that have marked it most in your biography.
Now stop at those moments and feel deeply the inner weight that has disturbed you in each of those experiences.
Recognize what ties you, what chains you and makes you feel like an emotional prisoner unable to flow freely along the path of your life.
This powerful spiritual exercise will reveal in a short time, what chains your life and prevents its transformation.
Unconsciously, we all get attached to emotional pain and get used to living with those wounds that are still active in our spiritual dimension and that, if we don’t recognize them, we could hardly heal them.
There are multiple invisible chains that we are dragging through our existence, as if we were miserable entities lacking inner strength. We must break these emotional bonds and thus achieve fullness and spiritual freedom. Depression, low self-esteem, anxiety, stress, family conflicts, a duel, a loss, infidelity, fear, trauma, an emotional breakdown, a divorce, an economic difficulty, etc.
You have a spiritual task. Understanding this you will know what will give your life meaning. That task is to recognize that what weighs most in your life, is what you need to exercise the muscle of your soul.
Detach yourself from what chains your life, don’t cling to the emotional pain that is the most cruel addiction; so your freedom will be real, when you manage to break the invisible chains of which you yourself have taken prisoner.
In my practice as an existential coach and companion of suffering souls, it impacts me greatly to find consultants who express chronic emotional pains, who have suffered for years, even decades and who have become accustomed to suffering them until they reach a point of emotional breakdown so brutal , that only when their lives are broken into a thousand pieces, their anesthetized consciousness awakens, in a single blow, and that is when they understand that they must be responsible for their emotional, spiritual, mental and physical health, if not, they would fall into emotional malnutrition and even danger of death.
An example of emotional attachment to pain, which chains a person’s life is the case of Claudia, a beautiful woman of approximately 40 years. Claudia lives in Miami and a friend of his had given her my book: ‘your soul, a jewel to polish’ with the purpose of helping her stop her pain and lead her to emotional stability. As a complement to the gift, he invites her to some sessions of spiritual and existential accompaniment with me and that is how we started this healing itinerary, with his hand in mine.
In the first virtual session I could see on the screen the beauty that remained of a woman who was worn out by pain and overwhelmed by suffering. I started doing the Soul Scanner to detect the wounds that silently bled inside. The first one I found was the deep wound of self-esteem, I was as hurt as a tender dove after receiving multiple rifle shots in his chest.
Carolina’s heart was bleeding like a wounded dove, which has fallen almost dead after multiple shots to the soul, which take away her existence, dignity and the ability to breathe to survive. The first thing he expresses to me is “I want to get out of this hole, and I don’t know how, because I don’t have the strength to fly anymore, my wings have been cut …”
I asked: How long have you lived in that hole? Respond: 20 years ago … sobbed.
This is what I call “Emotional attachment to the pain that chains your life.” Carolina had already developed all kinds of biological somatizations and anxiety disorders, which finished annihilating her body and her desire to live and yet she tried to smile, apologizing and justifying the emotional mistreatment she received from her husband, who treated her offensive and disqualifying mode.
She listened to an internal voice, plus the voices of her mother and some friends who constantly told her “You can’t separate! Hold! You have 2 daughters! And you’re going to be helpless! ”
Ask then: Are you not helpless yet? He replies: “This is what touched me, I learned that I forgive everything, I forget everything, delete it, forgive and forget …”
And I’ve Asked: Did you even forget about yourself?
This example tells how we can become emotionally and destructively attached to emotional pain. It is as if we lock the lock that locks us in the prison of perpetual suffering and vote the keys to the sea, to make sure, perhaps in a masochistic way that we will be locked in our own pain.
What is your jail? Go back to that TV series that tells your own story and recognize what is the harmful emotional attachment that has imprisoned you so many years ago.
Stopping the pain and finding the keys that will lead you to your own freedom depends only on you, the keys will not fall from the sky, you are your own jailer.
If you feel you cannot do it alone, if you feel mortally wounded, if you feel that fear paralyzes you, seek professional help or spiritual guidance and get out of the emotional attachment gap, which is the worst of addictions …
My soul pill this week:
When the wound no longer bleeds, it no longer burns, it becomes the scar that dignifies our battle and reminds us of the learned spiritual lesson.
Paula López Espinosa
@paulalopezescritora
